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  • Banana and Toffee Cake

    With great banana cake, comes great responsibility.

    This cake is the kind of cake I would want to marry and then divorce just so I could re marry it again. If Cakegasm really existed this would hit the spot. I hear some of you cry “it does exist, it does” so help yourself. I am more than happy to be responsible for the cake that makes you go ooh.

    Do not fear the quantity of ingredients. A little more time is needed but it is so easy and worthy of the time.


    For the gooey toffee topping

    • 100g4oz butter, plus extra for greasing
    • 100g/4oz soft light brown sugar

    For the sponge

    • 150g/5½oz butter
    • 175g/6oz soft light brown sugar
    • 4 medium free-range eggs
    • ½ vanilla pod, seeds only (or a couple of drops of vanilla extract)
    • 100g/3½oz self-raising flour
    • 75g/2½oz plain wholemeal flour
    • 1 tsp baking powder
    • 3 tsp ground ginger
    • 1 tsp ground cinnamon
    • 1 tbsp treacle
    • handful pecan nuts (optional)
    • pinch salt
    • 4 small firm bananas
    • 1 tbsp calvados or apple sherry/cointreau (optional)


  • Hello blog my old friend

    Hello blog, my old friend
    I’ve come to talk with you again
    Because a vision softly creeping
    Left its seeds while I was sleeping
    And the vision that was planted in my brain
    Still remains
    Within the sound of typing.

    A year ago. I stopped tapping the keyboard on my blog. I turned my back to it as swiftly as I did to my crop top phase.

    There were many a reason why I left it behind for a break. I felt like I was carrying too many tabs open in my life. I felt all the work and words on my blog were merely being swiped away and a mere promise of “oh yes I will read that later” was often being broken.

    I get it. I do it to bloggers all the time. I see a post being advertised via Instagram and think “oh cool, will read that in a moment” and then I keep on swiping and forget. It is never personal.

    Except it felt a little personal.

    Why am I re opening my blog? well like a lot of the artists from the 90s, this is my comeback. I have dusted of my Khaki pants and dog collar and I am ready to word splurge again.

    These tiny little IG squares, though practical and great for sharing/learning/buying from, quite simply offer a word limit and I need space.

    Be prepared for some recipes, play ideas, reviews and general life sharing. I cannot promise you they will be great but they will be worth it. Think L’oreal but with less filters,

    Alex x



  • Lucky Go Happy

    Lucky Go Happy

    This new shop was a perfect find for me, clueless in most aspects of ethical and eco-friendly products but for sure starting to be a bit more aware of what I gave/dressed Phoebe in.

    Discovering Jaime and Lucky Go Happy was fantastic and eye opening. It was also perfectly Timed.

    Lucky Go Happy

    I had recently been worrying about how gross children’s toothpastes were. I never realised how much crap I was allowing my child to put into her mouth, all in the name of clean teeth.

    Jaime at Lucky Go Happy had a range of organic, natural, fluoride free, colour/sugar free toothpastes that come in a wide range of fruit flavours.

    Not only was Phoebe now brushing her teeth with something less harmful but she has become obsessed with the toothpaste because it smells and tastes rather yummy. A child that wants to brush her teeth. A winner to me.

    lucky go happy


    Why Lucky Go Happy was created

    I spoke to Jaime, a mum of two in Newquay about her new shop which was launched in April.

    She told me that when she moved from Essex to Newquay there was distinct lack of children’s clothes shops.

    Whilst at home she had also taken an interest and recently been trying to eradicate all products with chemicals and investing in more natural products, she saw a gap in the market.

    Lucky Go Happy was created so that people/parents looking to source clothes, body products for both them and children and gifts that were eco-friendly, ethical, organic could find them all under one “roof”.

    Brands such as Organic Zoo, Lennie & Co, Carlijnq, Jack n’ Jill and many more.

    My eyes have been opened

    Since discovering Lucky Go Happy, not only have I been super happy and impressed with the quality of the products that I have received but I have started making small changes.

    Baby steps mind you,

    If you are looking to invest in some environmentally friendly products for your child and a few for you, then I cannot recommend enough a visit to her online store.

    Be warned you will never look at toothpaste in the same way again.



    Jaime’s shop is and she is also on Instagram as the same name.

About Me

A little bit of me

About this blog

Why I am doing it

I thought long and hard about starting a blog. Knowing that there are some fabulous reads out there I wondered whether I should jump aboard the written ship. Then I thought about my role or my position as a single mother and how my experience may benefit to be heard. So, I am Alex a 34 year old single mother. I did not choose this role but I am in it and winging it one typo at a time. I will share, I may even scare but I hope that my words will bring comfort, solace and maybe even some inspiration and amusement to those that read it. “If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?” - Milton Berle

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What I listen to

I live and breathe music as though it runs through my veins. Music has always been a passion and for three years was a job. I will often make reference to it in this blog. My tastes are eclectic and read like a David Lynch script but my mind is the same so it fits. A few of my Faves. Pearl Jam, The Sonics, Louis Prima, The Pixies, The Dwarves, The Damned, NIN, Faith No More, Connie Francis, Wanda Jackson, Counting Crows, Chuck Berry, Fats Domino, Nina Simone, Metallica, Foo Fighters, RHCP, Sonic Youth, Pantera, Portishead, Frank Sinatra, David Bowie, The Who, Pink Floyd, Chet Baker, Howlin Wolf, Rage Against The Machine, Type O Negative, Nirvana, Mother Love Bone, Petula Clark, Silverchair, Soundgarden, The Cramps, Misfits, New York Dolls, Buddy Holly, ELO, Carl Perkins and Elvis Presley. To name but a few.


Some of my faves

I love movies, I immerse myself in them, escape momentarily. Asking me to choose my favourites is a little Sophie's Choice. Here are some of my loves. Amelie, Leon, The Crow, The Lost Boys, Girl Interupted, Virgin Suicides, The Craft, Empire Records, True Romance, Face Off, Heathers, Beetlejuice, Pans Labryinth, Ferris Buellers Day Off, Labryinth, The Rocky Horror Show, Legend, Wayne's World, The Big Lebowski, Withnail And I, Ghost World, Poltergeist, The Birds, The Shining, O Brother Where Art Thou, Fried Green Tomatoes At Whistle Stop Cafe, City Of God, Clueless, My Girl, All the Die Hards, Juno, Rosemarys Baby, Harold And Maude, Chocolate and Elf. Now excuse me whilst I go and weep at my forgotten loves.


Glorious Food

Another passion of mine. Those who say nothing tastes as good as skinny feels, never really ate. I spent most of my youth eating to live and then my adulthood living to eat. I love to bake and am a total an utter feeder. I make things for other people, often things I do not like. Something beautifully perverse about watching people enjoy your creations. I will add some of my offerings onto this blog. Sharing is caring. Though I am not liable for any weight gain.

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